Gaining Perspective: The Power of Stepping Back

Gaining Perspective: The Power of Stepping Back

Sometimes, we can’t see things clearly when we’re too close. As I’m getting older, I’ve noticed I sometimes have to hold a piece of paper further away to bring it into focus. Interestingly, the same principle applies to how we see our lives. Often, when we’re too involved in our own situations, it’s hard to get a clear picture of what’s truly going on. We need to step back to gain perspective.

In my business, I’ve found this practice invaluable. To help me gain clarity and see the big picture, I hired a business coach. When I discuss a concern with her, one of the things she frequently reminds me to do is “helicopter up”—to get that 30,000-foot view. Shifting my focus to the big picture has made a significant difference in how I approach challenges.

I also try to apply this “helicopter up” approach in my personal life, although it can be more challenging. To be successful at stepping back in my personal life, I need someone who’s willing to speak truth to me—and I have to be willing to hear it. Who in your life have you authorized to tell you the hard truths? We all need at least one person we trust to speak honestly, even if it’s not what we want to hear.

For me, that trusted voice comes from my therapist. When she’s about to tell me something that could be difficult to hear, she gives me a gentle heads-up by saying, “Put your armor on; this might hurt.” Because I know she has my best interests at heart, I’m able to listen without taking it personally. Instead, I try to embrace her insight and view the bigger picture.

So, how do you “helicopter up” in your life? Whose words do you trust, even when they’re difficult to hear? Finding someone who can offer honest feedback without judgment is essential for true growth. We all need those people in our lives who encourage us to step back, see things clearly, and grow from a broader perspective.